He's Just Not That Into You....Really.

After watching "He's Just Not That Into You", I can't think of any movie that more accurately portrays women as I know them. Except for the fact that, in the movie, they all live in the real world where everyone sleeps with each other, I felt as if I was watching my friends (and myself) on reality TV.

The movie discusses the fact that we, as females, have a huge lie pounded into our heads from the time we are little girls on the playground.
When a guy teases you/is mean to you/ignores you/everything else he does to try to push you away, really it is all because he likes you. That's how he shows it.

I never officially subscribed to this belief. Even so, I am guilty on many counts.
I over-analyze. I cyber-stalk. Like most girls I know, I see what i want to see.

But really...What the heck?!
We only do these things because we wonder. We aren't sure what's going on in a guy's head. We have to try to find our way through the puzzle of all the games and try to figure out what he really means and wants. It would be a lot easier if he would just spell it out from the beginning.

Here are some examples:
Tom: "I think you're very attractive and personable. I see potential. Let's talk about this more over a cup of coffee."
Bradley: "I know we are just friends, but I want you to know that I think I might have feelings for you. Now that I got that off my chest, want to go bowling?"
See! It's not that hard!

Or even...
James: "It was nice to meet you. I had a great time but I am not interested. I won't be calling."
You might be thinking "ouch", but maybe it hurts less than what you go through after trying to identify a guy's signs, finally identifying them as positive, and then being majorly let down.

This movie really makes me think...a little bit too much. I don't want to be that psycho-chick who freaks guys out and scares them away. I also don't want to be the girl who wastes so much energy over-analyzing every single word that a guy says, whether it be via text, phone, or actual in person interaction. But, at the same time, if I don't take hold of some "signals" (whether I'm reading them right or not!) then I will end up giving every guy the cold shoulder out of fear of misreading and chasing him away. I guess it's all about balance. And I know that I suck at balance.

One last thing: In the movie, Alex says that if a guy wants a girl, he'll make it happen.
While this might be true in the "real world", I just don't have that much faith in Jewish guys. From my experience, they are way wimpier than that.