Thank you "Mean Girls" for spreading the word "clutch" to millions of teenagers across the country. And thank you " Year in Israel" for spreading the word " sketchy"to thousands of Sem girls and Yeshiva guys spending their meaningful year in Israel. Some call it "shady"- I call it " super interesting but not 100% glatt kosher ( or not mehadrin min hamehadrin) ".
Why is it that suddenly among the list of questions a girl asks about a guy that she might potentially be set up with, she asks if the guys is considered "sketchy", after she asks if he wants to make aliyah, but before she asks how many times a day he learns?
Chicas! Wake up! What does sketchy even mean? Who cares if Yakov Chaim or Miriam Raizel thinks he is sketchy! They think wearing flip flops without tights is sketchy. And if Steph considers Moshe sketchy ( well lets be honest most of the Moshes we have met are questionable in character) is it because he actually had the guts to ask out a girl in person? Gasp!
Here ladies, is where my dilemma stems from. Why is that when a nice frum Modern Orthodox guy asks out a girl in a library, bar, lechaim.. do we consider him to be sketchy? Would you say confidence is sketchy? How about determination or passion? Instead of shaking your head and whispering to your friends about this gutsy guy, appreciate the courage it took for him to ask for your number. Be impressed by his candor and ability to go for what he wants. Would you rather him ask your roommate's best friend's fiance's neighbor's facebook friend who went to his brother's yeshiva what your deal is? Or would you rather him approach you straight up, skip all the detours, avoid 3 weeks of indirect research and do the product investigation himself? In the secular world ladies, men see what they like and they go for it. They aren't called "sketchy", they aren't called "brave", they are called GUYS. We are so used to guys taking the highway and stopping at every toll without EZPASS nor exact change and so we assume that guys who just cross the street and meet us are tainted and miscreants.
So do me a favor, next time a guy approaches YOU, and not your friend sitting right next to you, give him props. Better yet, its a turn on- not turn off.
All I am saying is that you've got a light. Know when it should be switched off and when it should be switched on.
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that sketchy thing really irks me. apparently i'm considered "sketchy". maybe it's because i try my best to be a good jew and fun person all while attempting to explore the world and experience new things that are, in fact, within the boundaries of halacha. oops. my bad.
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